Reading this thread can easily turn this natural human behavior into a feeling of guilt and shame.
I'm not freaked out by it (because it's not like the baby's going to remember it) but it is a little weird. Thinking about it more, it makes sense to me that it probably occurs more frequently than some would believe, or that practitioners would admit.Having sex with a baby next to the bed seems different, though.As Taomist said, bring in a knowing and willing partner. If a man said something like, "Yeah, seeing my baby suck on the bottle while I'm feeding her really gets me hot so I jack off while I'm holding her", would that be okay, too?Fine, but can't she put the baby down and then go to town on herself?If a man said something like, "Yeah, seeing my baby suck on the bottle while I'm feeding her really gets me hot so I jack off while I'm holding her", would that be okay, too?
She could, but if, as I suggest, she's not thinking erotic thoughts about the baby, what difference does it make? As for the guy, you're suggesting that the baby itself (and not the physical response to breastfeeding) is being cathected as an erotic stimulus.
I was reading a article on sex and motherhood ( (I know, I know, my first mistake) and a writer mentioned hearing that breastfeeding while masturbating could be very erotic, so she decided to try it out. I felt like a teenage boy trying to see how far he could shoot.
Eventually, I felt around and masturbated, tentatively. When I told this to one of my mommy friends, she said, "You should try masturbating while breastfeeding. I went home, got out my mini-massager and settled into the Glider rocking chair with Felix, then a month and a half old, at my breast.
well 6 weeks later and beyond it's quite a nice feeling. So then encouraging the feeling of that to enhance masturbation changes the breastfeeding stimulus from nice and nurturing and bonding into something sexual. The described act violates the very heart, the most basic foundation of that desire.
And that is where it crosses the line into totally icky. To be fair, if you read the article, this is not something she is advocating or some kind of how-to.
Physically holding the baby while you jerk off or receive oral, on the other hand..so good.